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Post by will on Oct 5, 2022 7:44:34 GMT
Thread title: I've had enough
"You win
"The silent treatment has made my mind up, so with effectively being sent to Coventry I've decided to make the most of it.
I've discarded my clothes, grown my hair, now I'm just looking to borrow a Horse so I can do some sightseeing.
"This Board will close in 24 hours time"
Posted at around midnight UK time.
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Post by will on Oct 5, 2022 8:33:19 GMT
Just in case he closes the forum down before you get a chance to look, I made the following reply ...
"This is a sad day, but it has been coming for a while now.
What I've got to say isn't going to change your mind - indeed it's probably going to be akin to throwing petrol on the fire - but it needs to be said anyway.
Our friendship, both on the internet and in real life, has been a long one, and it is to be expected that there will be highs and lows in such a long-lasting relationship. We've managed to bowl along despite our political differences because we have so many things in common. We've all enjoyed each other's hospitality, and before you get the wrong idea about that comment Pete, I mean the rest of us may not have visited you in NZ but we have all benefitted from YOUR generosity on more than one occasion. It's ironic that all of this should be happening on the tenth anniversary of the Millwall match, the first time that most of us met up in person, something which would never have happened without that generosity.
If you're sensing a "BUT", then here it comes ...
BUT, as I explained to you a couple of weeks ago, it is simply not on to go throwing accusations of cliques and bullying in the faces of friends, especially when they are groundless. It has been clear to me that these accusations were aimed at two of us in particular, and that I was one of those two people. I'm only going to speak for myself here - if the other person wishes to add anything then that is up to him - but I have been deeply upset by being labelled a bully. It matters not that it has come at a time when my personal life has been somewhat difficult, so I'm not using that as an excuse for being offended. At anytime I would have been mortified to be accused of bullying. In my professional life I spent a considerable amount of time trying to prevent bullying, mainly because it happened to me when I was a kid, and it happened to both of my kids too.
Maybe I should have brought my feelings out into the open rather than resorting to pms and the "silent treatment", but I felt that that it wouldn't do any good. Now, with the clock ticking on the forum I feel there's nothing to lose.
I'll finish by saying this: I have valued my friendship with every single one of you. Sarah and I do not have a lot of friends living locally, certainly not the sort that you could share joys and sorrows with. I thank all of you for the compassion and understanding you have shown me and my family during some difficult times, and I hope that we will all be able to keep in touch in whatever time we all have left."
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Post by Su on Oct 5, 2022 19:24:20 GMT
Sorry but he bought it on himself not the other way round. Your reply was just right Will and I thank you for putting it so eloquently.
I did pull him up on the accusations and he just simply denied it. In fact he felt he was the one being bullied !!
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Post by mulv on Oct 5, 2022 19:42:26 GMT
So Pete acts like a complete arse, people get fed up with it and he decides to close the board because people aren't using it any more, and it's *still* nothing to do with him. ๐
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Post by Su on Oct 5, 2022 19:50:34 GMT
My reply
Iโve had to think hard about what I want to write without it being misconstrued
It seems that there has been misunderstanding after misunderstanding after misunderstanding.
Being accused of being a bully, whether that accusation was meant or not, really hurt people.
Pete, you know I have spoken to you privately as well as comments on here. We have also discussed this via DMs, WhatsApp and FB messenger about closing the board at the end of the season so you know my feelings.
I respect your decision but feel sad that it has ended this way
Mental health is as important as physical health, if not more so, and if this board is upsetting people then maybe itโs better that it closes.
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Post by mulv on Oct 5, 2022 19:58:42 GMT
I'm still concerned about Pete's mental health. This apparently nasty streak is new, and I can't help wondering if it's a sign of some sort of deterioration in his state of mind. Last time he was here he was repeating himself a lot, telling the same story three times in the few days he was at our house. Not that were can do much to help him from here even if it is.
We've been together through a lot - his house moves, the loss of Robyn and his dogs. It's a pity it ends like this.
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Post by mulv on Oct 5, 2022 20:00:40 GMT
Hadn't seen your reply before I posted. Seems we're both thinking along the same lines.
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Post by will on Oct 5, 2022 20:07:00 GMT
I am also worried about his state of mind, but Su has spent a lot of time trying to help him out with that, and despite her patience and understanding there doesn't seem much she or any of the rest of us can do.
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Post by mulv on Oct 5, 2022 20:09:16 GMT
I'm left wondering if I could have been more understanding, but there are certain words you don't aim at teachers, and if you do and get told about it, you don't aim them at teachers again.
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Post by will on Oct 5, 2022 20:34:21 GMT
I'm left wondering if I could have been more understanding, but there are certain words you don't aim at teachers, and if you do and get told about it, you don't aim them at teachers again. Ditto everything you've just said.
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Post by Karoline on Oct 5, 2022 23:12:00 GMT
11 minutes after midnight & itโs been closed down ๐ฅ
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Post by Su on Oct 6, 2022 7:16:58 GMT
It's gone Has anyone contacted Steve?
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Post by anglais on Oct 6, 2022 8:04:19 GMT
I have emailed KP this morning. I am not going to reproduce it here as it is personal.
But I have told him that he is wrong about there being cliques and he has not been sent to Coventry. How he will take I do not know. I have had numerous discussions with Will regards the bullying accusations and I am firmly behind Mulv and Will on this. To be honest the accusations are a nonsense
I have said that I hope that we can stay in touch as we do not want to lose him as a friend.
I am not that confident that he will reply. If he does I will of course let you know. I have expressed to Will several times my concern for his mental wellbeing.
We are genuinely concerned for him. Despite what has been said, I am sure that you all are too.
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Post by will on Oct 6, 2022 8:21:22 GMT
It's gone Has anyone contacted Steve? I'll text him later.
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Post by mulv on Oct 6, 2022 8:45:00 GMT
It's gone Has anyone contacted Steve? I'll text him later. ๐๐ป
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